Recently there’s been a fuss on Twitter over a hashtag celebrating “Heterosexual Pride Day”. Honestly I don’t see anything inherently wrong with the concept itself, but from what I understand there is frustration directed at it partly because people happen to celebrating it during Pride Month. You know, a month dedicated to celebrating homosexuality? I can definitely see why the timing of such a thing would be an issue, particularly as it would be seen as a piss-take.
Of course, the other reason behind the frustration is because of social justice warriors deciding that heterosexuality isn’t something worthy of any kind of pride. A common response is “what’s next, white history month?” or “breathing air?”. The latter I find really strange. Surely to a gay person, isn’t being gay about as normal as breathing air? Oh wait, it’s because there are more heterosexuals in the world isn’t it? And it’s a very peculiar notion that heterosexuals shouldn’t get a day to celebrate their heterosexuality because it’s normal (for them apparently), but being gay does merit celebration, even though both are basically celebrations of what you are and not who you are. Sexual orientation is something that is, at least to my understanding, beyond the control of individuals, it is not an accomplishment, and has no bearing on the character of individuals nor is it something upon which the character of an individual can be based. So why is one sexuality treated as basically meaningless, or worthless, but not the other?
Oh wait, it might be because Pride Month is about more than celebrating being gay. No, it’s about their right to exist without persecution, at least according to this. Wait, don’t we all have the right to exist without persecution? Yes, but not if you believe in identity politics. As far as I am aware in the Western world we all have the right to exist without persecution under the law, don’t we?
It’s a similar situation with International Women’s Day. Although there is indeed an International Men’s Day, it seems to me that International Women’s Day is apparently seen as more important for a lot of people than International Men’s Day, whereas if you believed in equality you would see both as equally important. Same with Black History Month, or White History Month, or any history month devoted to a racial group, I find there’s a certain segregation of history, and inevitably one is treated as more important than another. That’s also the same problem I have with the MOBO awards – it segregates musical achievement based on race or ethnicity.
The whole point of combating racism, sexism and sexualism is that you shouldn’t be treated unfairly based on race, sex and sexuality, on the basis that those things don’t make you less of a person. This should mean recognizing that race, gender and sexuality have no bearing on the character of the individual. But for some reason, one group of people is treated as more important than the other, to the point that another celebrating their sexuality, race and gender is either meaningless or downright bigoted.
My thoughts are either we start celebrating humanity as a whole in monument to egalitarianism instead of identity politics, we make it a point to celebrate our humanity throughout our lives as much as possible, or we just live and let live and just let everyone have their own time to celebrate their identities because in the end that’s what these things are – a celebration not of who you are, but what you are. If you’re going to have pride in what you are, then just focus on what you are and not what other people are and how they’re wrong for celebrating it. But if you think pride is reserved for one group of people, and for another group it is hateful, I think you’re in the wrong and in fact beholden to identity politics. I don’t mind Pride month. I just don’t like the idea that some people should have pride for what the are, but others should not.