Pride and humanity

Recently there’s been a fuss on Twitter over a hashtag celebrating “Heterosexual Pride Day”. Honestly I don’t see anything inherently wrong with the concept itself, but from what I understand there is frustration directed at it partly because people happen to celebrating it during Pride Month. You know, a month dedicated to celebrating homosexuality? I can definitely see why the timing of such a thing would be an issue, particularly as it would be seen as a piss-take.

Of course, the other reason behind the frustration is because of social justice warriors deciding that heterosexuality isn’t something worthy of any kind of pride. A common response is “what’s next, white history month?” or “breathing air?”. The latter I find really strange. Surely to a gay person, isn’t being gay about as normal as breathing air? Oh wait, it’s because there are more heterosexuals in the world isn’t it? And it’s a very peculiar notion that heterosexuals shouldn’t get a day to celebrate their heterosexuality because it’s normal (for them apparently), but being gay does merit celebration, even though both are basically celebrations of what you are and not who you are. Sexual orientation is something that is, at least to my understanding, beyond the control of individuals, it is not an accomplishment, and has no bearing on the character of individuals nor is it something upon which the character of an individual can be based. So why is one sexuality treated as basically meaningless, or worthless, but not the other?

Oh wait, it might be because Pride Month is about more than celebrating being gay. No, it’s about their right to exist without persecution, at least according to this. Wait, don’t we all have the right to exist without persecution? Yes, but not if you believe in identity politics. As far as I am aware in the Western world we all have the right to exist without persecution under the law, don’t we?

It’s a similar situation with International Women’s Day. Although there is indeed an International Men’s Day, it seems to me that International Women’s Day is apparently seen as more important for a lot of people than International Men’s Day, whereas if you believed in equality you would see both as equally important. Same with Black History Month, or White History Month, or any history month devoted to a racial group, I find there’s a certain segregation of history, and inevitably one is treated as more important than another. That’s also the same problem I have with the MOBO awards – it segregates musical achievement based on race or ethnicity.

The whole point of combating racism, sexism and sexualism is that you shouldn’t be treated unfairly based on race, sex and sexuality, on the basis that those things don’t make you less of a person. This should mean recognizing that race, gender and sexuality have no bearing on the character of the individual. But for some reason, one group of people is treated as more important than the other, to the point that another celebrating their sexuality, race and gender is either meaningless or downright bigoted.

My thoughts are either we start celebrating humanity as a whole in monument to egalitarianism instead of identity politics, we make it a point to celebrate our humanity throughout our lives as much as possible, or we just live and let live and just let everyone have their own time to celebrate their identities because in the end that’s what these things are – a celebration not of who you are, but what you are. If you’re going to have pride in what you are, then just focus on what you are and not what other people are and how they’re wrong for celebrating it. But if you think pride is reserved for one group of people, and for another group it is hateful, I think you’re in the wrong and in fact beholden to identity politics. I don’t mind Pride month. I just don’t like the idea that some people should have pride for what the are, but others should not.

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6 responses to “Pride and humanity

  1. I was in this conversation with a friend of mine a couple months ago. Everyone should have pride in who they are, that’s fine. But the problem with it is that in some situations it’s tactless.
    The individuals that are a part of Pride month, Black history month–all the rest–they are saying they are proud of who they are despite the world trying to make them be ashamed for being black, or Mexican, or Native American, or gay or trans, etc. It’s saying that they have endured great injustice in this country, and despite that, they will not succumb to the cultural view of them, that they will be proud to be themselves and not be defeated by hate.

    • That would be all fine and dandy, but I’m not sure if the world is trying to make them feel ashamed for what they are. Not anymore at least. If anything, it feels like the opposite. In fact, in our culture, only straight white males are the ones who people seem to think should be ashamed for who they are.

      • I personally get discriminated against for being a woman fairly regularly, and have many friends in the LGBTQ community who are harassed aggressively more often than I. There’s this whole uproar about transgender bathrooms and they are still fighting for their rights to get married. There is a huge mentality which dehumanizes those of other races–some of which is only slight, and there’s a lot more which is far more prominent. There is a lot of injustice towards people for simply not being white and not being male. Many people are discriminated against because they’re assumed to be illegal immigrants, and racial slurs are passed audibly and in their direction–much like what is currently going on in the UK as well. The straight, white male is not meant to be made to feel ashamed, but rather aware of the path others are having to endure because of subconscious social programming.

  2. I basically agree with you Aleph. While I’m quite aware that we had “gay pride” as a corrective to gay shame, it really has only so much mileage in it before you have to start questioning things (as opposed to campaigning to change laws and things like religious indoctrination). Nowadays it seems there really is a developing “straight shame” amongst a certain section of the cultural elite, so a call for “straight pride” is bound to happen. As someone who is himself homosexual, I have absolutely no objection to heterosexual pride. Let everyone be free of shame, the basis of our freedom and rights is our common humanity, and identity politics has really proven to be distorting and dishonest in my view. I’ve had it with all that stuff.

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