Are you going to the person others expect you to be, or are you going to always act against the expectations of others? In the end it doesn’t matter.
You can’t act based on expectations, because then you are still acting based on what others think of you, as opposed to acting in a way that is based on your own feelings.
Don’t act based on what people expect of you, or what is not expected of you. Act based on your own feelings and self. Do what you do for your own reasons, no one else’s.